Why I do not do New Year’s Resolutions

I rang the new year in with a few days of migraine attacks. Which pretty much expresses why I do not do New Year’s Resolutions. Not health related ones. Not anymore. Chronic pain is a constant disruption to goals and desires. And it is unfair to put some sort of extra goal on myself that will just make me feel guilty if I do not achieve it.

Not that the disruption of goals isn’t normal with chronic illness and pain. It is. Entirely. Days out for high pain happens. And things are adjusted. Like this post has been adjusted. Not like that is unanticipated. I just don’t need more More.

There are many ways to go about doing a resolution that might get around big oomph goals. Like making a small attainable goal. Breaking the goal into steps. You know, being realistic about it and my ability to achieve it. In the past I have done this or at the very least contemplated it. Pondered it. Made a spreadsheet. Made a list or two. Cried in frustration and abandoned all hope.

But the goals, they stack up

Let’s just face the fact that with chronic illnesses we have a crapton of goals and desires. And it is a lot of pressure to attain those goals and desires on a regular basis. Hell, if I take all the suggestions I get I could have even More goals. But they would mostly be do yoga and drink water.

I don’t need any more because I already have a full set of them. I could add more. And more and more and more. And be overwhelmed with goals. Just never achieving them. Which would make me feel like crap. So that plan doesn’t sound at all appealing to me.

Maintaining and progressing in our overall well-being takes a lot of time and effort. And in that, there are a lot of small goals, a lot of short term goals and a lot of long term goals. It can be daunting actually. We can goal ourselves out and become exhausted with all the things we have to do just to Maintain.

There is no specific time for our goals

There is no set time for my goals. They are a year round venture. Of setting them. Of adjusting them. Tweaking them. Aligning them. Making them a habit. Setting new ones. And on it goes. I don’t wait until the end of the year to go ‘ah, yes, now it is time to get some goal setting in place. Just one though. One mega one for the year and no more for the entire year. Whew.’

I wish it was just one.

I don’t. It is just a continuous process of progress. And then backtracking. Then lack of progress. Then progress. And on we go. Until the end of the year. And sometimes I think that was a good year. And sometimes, not so much. But we do what we can. Every inch counts.

So health goals are out

I am fine with all other New Year’s Resolutions. Like read more books. Or buy more books and read them. Or read more non-fiction to add flavour to my fiction. Or set up a reward system based on book buying. Anything book related really… sounds achievable and awesome. I can get behind that sort of goal.

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